Think you can’t become a designer Or a dancer Or anything else you might dream up Karen Cheng shows you can. Note: Being obsessed and disciplined…
On my path to self-love.
It’s been a challenging journey, but I try 1% more each day to love myself more.
[Day 2] Riisen has risen again
At Tropfest in Prospect Park, I saw this girl’s tank top and immediately thought of Lisa’s “business,” Riisen! I had a flashback to us silk screening and designing prints for my toorific tote bags. Good old high school memories.
I’m always afraid of finishing anything.
Hours or days or sometimes even weeks go into a project and, when I’m there at the end where the big picture is starting to seem a lot clearer and I’m only making small changes, I’ll start to get scared.
Like a runner who sees the finish line but…
Great summary of tips from the book Getting Things Done by Davide Allen.
Today Matters. Nothing Else Does.
You might think that with such a goal-oriented perspective and a self-control perspective, I might not focus that much on the value of today.
Actually, I believe that today is the only day that really matters.
Today is the only day you have to be sure that you’re moving forward on your goals. Right now is the only moment you have to actually choose to spend less money or to get some exercise or to start writing that novel.
The moment you choose to say that your goal can wait until tomorrow is the moment you give up on your goal.
Right now, think of every significant goal you have in your life. Are you seeking debt freedom? Are you seeking financial independence? Maybe you’re trying to lose weight or finish a big creative work.
Whatever it is, ask yourself what you can do today to move forward on each of those goals.
Not tomorrow. Not next week. Today.
Some of those choices might be active, like sitting down to add 1,000 words to your novel. Other choices might be more passive, like choosing not to spend money on something frivolous and instead banking that money.
Personally, I use a checklist. I have a number of ongoing goals and projects and I make sure to add at least one action item from each of these goals and projects to today’s “to-do” checklist. (I use Remember the Milk to manage all of these projects and goals and extract daily tasks from them.)
I find that when I make forward progress on all of my projects and goals on a given day, I feel great at the end of the day. On days when I make little progress, I go to sleep feeling as though something has slipped through my hands.
Whenever I hear people talking about how they should essentially waste today because “you only live once,” I actually just hear people making excuses to avoid achieving anything. Using “you’ll only be young once” or “I can do it tomorrow” as a reason not to move forward on your goals means that you’re not committed to moving forward on them.
Every day you don’t work toward your goals is a day lost.
Tips to Building Confidence
1. Listen to your inner voice and take note of the things that ignite your zest for life.
2. Focus: keep your eyes on the prize, however you define it.
3. Keep learning and challenging yourself.
4. Create your own tomorrows: don’t wait for someone to tap you on the shoulder. Ask for what you want.
5. Celebrate your successes.
6. Push through your fears.
7. View failures as a springboard to propel you even further.
8. Always look ahead, behind, up, down and sideways: you never know where the next opportunity will come from.
9. Reflect rather than react, strategize rather than “stew.”
10. Network, network, network - and then network some more: inside your organization, within your industry, across your community, etc.
11. Always hire people smarter than you.
12. Never apologize for your greatness.
13. Don’t take things personally and let go of the negative swirl.
14. Feel free to change your mind - often.
15. Have a Plan B, C, and D: don’t let life catch you unprepared.
Thinking about Thinking about Planning
Too much thinking of doing instead of actually doing.